Wednesday, December 23, 2009
.:. Friends .:.
Friend is a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard., definition by dictionary.com.
This topic came into my mind when I was watching the channel 8 drama, Together, on fri i think. The male lead said this to the girl he likes,"For a friend, its worth making sacrifices, getting injured, no even if it means losing one's life. If not, what are friends for?" While it might be distorted given the context of the statement, but still it set me thinking. What are friends, or rather how does one define friends?
Since young, we've heard the term "Best Friends", so what exactly defines the boundaries between a "Best Friend" and a "Friend", or even a "Friend" from a passer-by. Could it be by the common likings the 2 share, so they are able to talk more and relate more to each other, so they become "Best Friend"s? Or is it by the depth of how much the 2 know bout each other, through common talk and sharing of deep dark secrets not disclosed to public under normal circumstances? Or even the sexes, whereby its common sight to see "Best Friend"s being of the same gender? I tried very hard to think bout it, but can't come up with anything, too deep for my level of intellect i guess. Maybe its a combination of factors, whereby the factors are variables specific to each individual...just maybe
But thru the thinking process, I kinda reflected alot on myself, the passer-bys, friends and Best friends that I know. Its quite amazing how i use to be able to have...temporary friends shall I call it...considering now I am a person who very much treasures my friends around me. What I am talking about is like during events of short periods of times, days or weeks, whereby we can stick to someone whom we can seem to get along so well with, but then suddenly after whatever the event, the bond simply disappears, contact just lost like that, as if disintegrating, flying away into the abundant air surrounding us. I can remember a few of such cases...now to think of it, why did I not try and maintain contact then, or even now...I just don't know...
Sitting here with my fingers poised over the keyboard, I cant identify the factors that I choose my friends by. There's a huge range, from having been friends since too far to recall to common topics like gundam to simply being able to get-along with the person. I have friends around me that I cant identify why we are friends, but we are. Don't get me wrong, I like those friends too, just cant say why.
Best Friends. Now this point I am quite sure of myself. Best friends are people whom I feel comfortable enough for me to be free of any restrain of myself, to be able to just be myself. And I really treasure the Best friends that i have, and i really hope our friendship can last thru the ages, even as we enter the complex manipulative world of adulthood. Just pure friendship that withstands the corrosion with time. But on the same note, I think I take my best friends for granted... in a certain sense. Sometimes being totally who I am is, I realise, not exactly very pleasing to others even if i say so myself. I am able to joke around with my best friends, make digs at each others, and just laught about it, but there are times when I realise I am having so much fun that I actually think its too much, if you get what I mean. Its not that I don't treasure these precious friends of mine, I really do from the bottom of my heart, but I just tend to do so. So if any of my friends are reading this and you have in a way felt this way from me, I am truly sorry. Know that I really do treasure you.
Ok the more i type this, the more I am thinking deeper into life, the more "emo" i get, and its late in the night, so i think i should stop. The top represents my stand on "Friends", and it should include all I've thought about it so far. Although it might change down the years, but let this be here for now, and my reference in future when i chance upon this.
I am grateful for all the people, passer-bys, friends, Best friends who are apart of my life :) Luv you all :)
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Friday, December 18, 2009
.:. Avatar .:.
Yes I jus came home from Japan and I watched Avatar with a sec sch friend of mine already, hehe. Will blog bout my Japan trip sometime later.
I must say the $6 paid for the ticket was totally worth the movie. It is currently one of my top must -see-movies (not that many have entered the list). Lets start with a brief summary for u readers. Jack Sully, a marine whose brother died in a robber, has decided to take his bro's place in a top scientific project, Avatar Project. On this distant planet exists an element, I tink its called unobtainium or something like that, and it suppousedly sells for a very high price. So humans have decided to colonize the planet to refine as much of that element as possible. However, living on the planet is a specie called Na'vi. They believe strongly in the bond living creatures have with the planet, and that life energy is not given but borrowed. Here comes the problem. The Na'vi's hometree happens to be above the greatest deposit of the element the humans seek. So Jack's mission is to learn the ways of the Na'vi, and to convince them to move out of hometree.
The Avatar Project is where humans fused human DNA with Na'vi DNA to form hybrids, whereby due to the genetic identically, humans would be able to 'link' with their 'manufactured' Na'vi bodies and control it as if themselves. Due to the death of his bro, Jack Sully chose to enter the project as they are genetically identical. So on his 1st mission, he got lost, and then was saved by the Na'vi's cheif daughter, who eventually falls in love with Jack. Jack too learned the ways of the Na'vi, and that the violent methods employed by humans are wrong, and decides to lead the Na'vi against the humans. That's a very original idea, so I must give it a thumbs up. (credit to wiki for some words used here too).
Now the details. The computer graphics is absolutely...erm...stunning. Me and my friend were left stunned after the movie. The graphics seemed so real, as if there was really such a world. Idea wise, I really believed it was a freaking good idea. How the story brings out the ruthlessness of humans in obtaining the element and the bond the Na'vi share with the planet. The writer intelligently brought in the idea that the Na'vi all had a long twirl of hair hanging on their backs, which possess small tentacles at the back which they use to connect with other living things or the planet itself. It was a great way to show the contrast between conventional methods used by humans. Na'vi tame creatures, by using that hair of theirs to connect to that of the creatures (say an alien horse and the flying thingy), and the fact that creature must first accept the Na'vi, as compared to how humans simply capture and tame the creature. Excellent idea. Technology wise, humanoid robots (first appeared in matrix 3 so no credit for that), helis with double blades and huge fat gunship (no credit).
While watching the film, I cant help but feel the strong message that the writer is sending, the current way humans are exploiting the natural resources are killing the Earth. The way humans are using war to scare the Na'vi away. The scene where the trigger-happy marines simply fired missles and burnt down hometree while the Na'vi could only watch was just...heart-wrenching. Celebratory moment when finally the marine's machines got whooped by the planet itself (no spoilers...go watch haha).
All in all, it was superb. I luv it totally!!!Go watch it!!!
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Thursday, December 10, 2009
.:. Konichiwa .:.
Yup I will be leaving for Tokyo, Japan tml, flight's at nite. It's gonna be a 7 day trip. Not much to blog about until I've actually been there. Was hoping to visit the Gundam Museum there, but apparently its quite ulu and hard to get there, so not this time. Maybe some other time when I am older and financially able to make a trip there. For now, its gonna be a 7 day trip, with eyes peeled for shopping malls or shops that carry gundam models in them haha.
A 7 day trip now means 7 days off my schedule to go out with friends, and there's so many friends I have yet to see.
People to meet after i return from my trip:
1) 0804
2) Those interested in playing "Shi Zhi Lu Kou" (translated as Food Junction haha)
3) Zu Yao - hope to meet u asap, if yr reading this
4) Chi Neng - definitely will meet u after I come back, for dinner and after yr sch end
5) Sec sch friends - movie and bowling perhaps???
6) 6A - Sorry for missing out on the last bbq
Hope I din miss out on anybody. Apparently my phone has no auto-roaming service, hence i will be un-contactable for the 7 days. Any of u wan to meet me pls sms me and I will get back to you when i return. Facebook would do fine too.
Lastly, I will bring souveneirs...if i remember haha ( and if I have money left from buying gundams haha). For now...dun miss me ;P
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Wednesday, December 9, 2009
.:. Fruitful Tuesday .:.
Yesterday went out with a bunch of 0804ians to go bugis Top 1 to sing. Other than the usual 4, Yeow Kheng and Jia Yen joined us this time. Being a frequent of Kbox(thanks to sushan), I cant help comparing the 2. Firstly, it is the price. kbox is definitely more expensive, ranging 20+ while Top 1 is only 18nett. But as they say, price = quality. I would have to say that Kbox provided a better environment. The moment we stepped into the room in Top 1, we realised there was alot of flies...dun noe why. The floor there was also dam dirty, after a while you could feel the stickiness of the floor on yr shoe. So that puts a huge downer on Top 1. While Kbox only offers 2 drinks, Top 1 offers unlimited drinks, so its alot better in that aspect. Moving on to the music there, Kbox totally tops Top 1. Its quite obvious that the MVs used in Top 1 were quite, erm lower standard than that of Kbox, cos the MVs were not as clear, and rather old. Maybe I am jus bias...cos they dun have the songs i wana sing!!!
Overall, I think Top 1 is ok la. It aint that bad, considering the price. So it jus depends on which u prefer, price or quality ba.
After singing for 7 hours (woohoo!!! highness) we met Ryan for dinner, with Yeow Kheng and Jia Yen leaving the group. We walked to one of the Astons outlet around Little India. Then we had a hard time deciding what night activity we wanted to do. Its surprising how hard it is for a group of us to think of what things to do at nite in Singapore, and its not the 1st time. In the end, we jus decided to go sit by Singapore River to talk.
But I must say, the atmosphere there was excellent. Sitting by the black water, blinking lights around us, and the occasional screams from the bungee jumpers jus beside us, puts a very suitable atmosphere for talking. So we jus sat there, and talked. Talk talk talk, and our conversation was centered around relationships, which made me think alot bout that topic...
Relationships are very complicated. Dun get me wrong, I know that it is complicated, but apparently it is alot more complicated than what I pictured. Lets first talk bout the types of relationship (and I mean between genders). We have the purely platonic (is this the correct word to use???) relationship, where you have 2 person of the opposite sexes being great friends, just very good friends. To the extent where they share everything, anything bout themselves, much like a couple, yet are not in that inclined to the other party. I remember ever hearing this from someone,"Its not possible for a guy to be very good friends with a girl without the guy entertaining any of those thoughts bout going out together (or something along those lines)...". Is it really that impossible??? Cant a guy and a girl be simply purely good friends???
Next we have the relationship, Attraction. In my terms, it simply means that the physical appearance of the opposite sex, coupled with the character, if you know the person well enough, attracts you, and it stops there. Your just attracted to that person. So this comes to mind, is it probably just hormones at work? Your hormones are telling you that the person is very "nice", and hence you feel this way. What's next depends on the ability of your mind to influence your body, whether you rationalise youself to know that its just attraction or u jus listen to your body and go for it.
Lastly, we have the almighty Love. After much thought, I sum this up as Attraction + the possiblity of lasting forever (note the use of "possibility"). This is when you find the person "nice", and your mind tells you that you 2 can be together forever. Yet how do we know what is love? If love is really that almighty, what happens that allows for the love to disappear in some cases? Is it because we don't know the person as well as we thought we do or cos love is not that strong a relationship as we picture it to be?
So relationships are very complicated, very very, which makes me wonder if I am ready for it.
After much self-reflection and chat sessions with different people, I dun tink I am ready. Relationship is a huge responsibiltity, very huge one. For me, when I enter a relationship, I must know that the relationship can last, and that love is actually there and not attraction only. When you enter a relationship, its not just bout spending saturdays going out with your gf/bf at somewhere you think its romantic. There's the responsibility of being there for your partner, when she needs it most. You must know when your partner needs you the most even though he/she does not say it, and let he/she know that you are there. Relationship is not just pure happy and fun, but also to fill the emotional support needed that family and friends cant provide for.
To enter a relationship, you must also know your partner well enough. The other party's character, temper, emotions, way of thinking, likes and dislikes etc. You must be able to read your partner's every move, to know when to be there, when to give space. This allows for the give and take necessary for the relationship to work. On the same note, this cant be one-sided too. If you are always the one giving, even though there is love now, there might come a day when you feel tired of it all, and the feeling fades away. Moreover, is this one-sidedness because of his/her character, or is it because there is no real love?
Thats all I've thought till now, given the space of 1 day. But i guess that pretty much sums up how I feel the complexity of relationships are. It ain't as complicated as it was, it is more. Are you ready...
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.:. After A's .:.
Yes I know this post is rather late...
Been rather busy after A's (not studying of course), playing maple, going out with friends and doing class video etc.
Life after A's is erm...kind of weird. I use to wake up, with a daily agenda to fill, in terms of number of work to do. Nowadays, i jus wake up, idle around, thinking of either to play computer or xbox before i go out to meet my friends. It jus feels kind of weird...maybe I jus need time to readjust ba. But I seriously miss school days, as in 5 days a week, going to school to meet 0804 and friends. Nowadays its only me at home, unless we specially meet up. Dam missing u guys!!!
Anywayz, prom on fri was a blast! Pure entertainment after A's. Seeing everyone dressed up nice nice and slowly arriving at the posh grand hyatt. Its quite fun to see the vast difference people's attire for the event. You have the girls, who obviously, will spent hours in preparation and needless to say the cost, then the guys range from blazers to vests, and then some with quite formal top but jeans, and lastly, I saw this guys who came in shorts...literally shorts...all he lacked was a pair of slippers...I was like omg!
The food was ok overall, not particularly fantastic or bad. The table games were...table games. Then there was the cam whoring, accompanied with the abundance of suanning and pairing. HAHA!!! but tis kind of thing is expected for prom la.
After prom, some of us headed over to michelle's basement to sleep-over. We had snacks, drinks, and oh oh XBOX!!! muahaha. So we started with halo (hehe), played a few matches. Naturally the guys were playing, then the girls watched, so we switched to some more girl-friendly games, mainly racing. Project Gotham racing was soso, but i kena surprised when we started playing burnout revenge. The girls ah, lets jus say dun mess with them ah. THey all have the violent gene in them ah...max dangerous. Burnout to them was like, omg highness.
After they finished burnout, the guys continued halo. It was 3v1 ah...me vs all. Siao siao la. But i still managed to win them (hehe let me hao lian abit). But i must say, I deproved alot. And if any of you guys are reading this and u think I am good, I can only say my sec halo mates were alot better, then i was the one being thrashed.
Oh well. Thats all for fri ba.
Tml have Top One session waiting, cant wait. But normally I go there also listen song, sing abit onli (hey I know my limits ok). So that's all for now ba.
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